Ep #112: Creating Financial Prosperity During Divorce | Becoming You Again Podcast
One of the most overwhelming and stressful circumstances dealt with during divorce is the financial aspect; how you're going to live now and moving forward. Learning to be prosperous during financial setback can be a useful tool especially during/after divorce.
When I think of prosperity, I think of success, forward movement, abundance, flourishing and growth. Prosperity sounds like a very active word, like there is momentum and movement attached to it. So get ready to take real measured action on your way to creating financial prosperity during divorce.
In today's episode steps are laid out taking you from becoming aware of the way you're thinking about your financial situation, learning to be informed about the truth, problem solving and finally coming up with your action plan on for growth, opportunity and prosperity.
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I'm Karin Nelson, and you're listening to Becoming You Again, episode number 112.
Welcome to Becoming You Again the podcast to help with your mental and emotional well being during and after divorce. This is where you learn to overcome the trauma of your divorce by reconnecting with yourself creating lasting emotional resilience and living a truly independent life, so your life will be even better than when you were married. I'm your host, Karin Nelson.
Welcome back to the podcast, my lovely ladies, I'm so glad that you're here. Today I am talking about creating financial prosperity during your divorce or after either way, right. But when we go through a divorce, the financial aspect often becomes one of the most overwhelming stressful circumstances that we have to deal with. So today, I'm going to be giving you some steps to take so that you can create financial prosperity during your divorce, if that is something that you are seeking. Now, obviously, this is not a promise that you're going to be making, you know, tons more money or promise that your finances are going to change. But what I am going to be giving you are action steps that you can take to create opportunities in your life to take a look at where you're at right now. So that you can have a plan to be able to create more abundance, more money, more whatever it is that you are looking for when it comes to prosperity, as you go through your divorce and moving forward into the future. So let's take a quick look at what prosperity even means. When I think of the word prosperity, I think of success. I think of forward movement, I think of abundance, I think of flourishing, and growth and money and all of those things that kind of come together as one. Prosperity to me sounds like a very active word like there is momentum attached to it and movement attached to it. And I think that's an important aspect. When it comes to securing our finances, as we go through divorce, we have to include action into that plan into our life moving forward, because we can have the right thoughts or thoughts that we want to think and feel grounded and feel safe in our space all day long.
But without measured planned action, it is really difficult to create a result of prosperity or result of growth, a result of more income, a result of money in the bank a result of abundance. You see where I'm going here, we have to have a plan, we have to take action on our plan. So keep the action part in mind as I go through this podcast. Because I'm definitely going to be offering up action steps for you to apply in your own life and your own situation to better help you step into the prosperity that you might be looking for. Now, I'm not going to tell you exactly what to do. But I'm going to give you some ideas. And then your work to do is to fit this into your life and pick and choose the steps and the plan and the action that works best for you that fits your specific circumstance.
When we're coming up with any kind of action plan, we don't want to take action coming from First of all, we don't want to come from a feeling of scarcity or guilt, or fear.
What we do want to do, and to be able to understand the feelings that we that are driving our actions, we first have to take a look at what we are thinking. This goes back to some of the early podcast days where I really laid out that think feel do model for you guys. Our thoughts, create our feelings create our actions, okay, so if we want to have a result of prosperity, and we want to be feeling abundant and taking action from abundance, what are we thinking about? So we've got to take a look at what we're thinking about when it comes to money, and your financial situation, your prosperity situation, your abundance situation right now. So we're gonna go back to the basics of mindset work and really take a look at how you're thinking about things. So if you have time right now, or come back to it later, write out your thoughts about what you're thinking about your financial situation, what you're going through what it's like what you're feeling, what you're struggling with, we have to know where you're starting from, so that we can then tweak the thoughts to tweak the feelings, to tweak the actions and write out the plan and start on that action plan by taking one step at a time. So let me give you some examples of what you
Your thoughts might sound like just you kind of have an idea of what I'm even talking about. You might be having thoughts like, I've been a stay at home mom for 20 years, and now I'm getting a divorce. What am I supposed to do now no one is going to hire me after I have been out of the workforce for 20 years. Or something like, all I can think about is the long term lawyer fees, and how this is going to cost me a ton of money. Or I literally don't even make enough on my own to make ends meet at the end of the month, I have no idea how I'm going to do this. Or I just want to make sure that I am safe, and my kids are safe, and that we have what we need moving forward.
Or I make the majority of the money in this relationship. And it scares me that I'm going to have to give up half of my income. And I'm going to have to give up the lifestyle that I have come to enjoy any of those types of thoughts, like write them all down, just so you know, we're not going to have any judgment. Remember, we don't have judgments about our thoughts, because we are not our thoughts. They are just swirling around in our brains, and we just need to take a look at them and figure out what's going on. All right. That is step one, write out your thoughts. Now, I want to be really clear here, when we are figuring out whether your thoughts are more coming from kind of a scarcity mindset. It's very natural for us to do that, especially if we aren't in the habit of paying attention to our thoughts and really paying attention to the abundance that is surrounding us. Okay, so it's really normal and natural for a lot of people to be coming from a scarcity mindset, especially when you're going through a divorce. And there's a lot of things that are changing financially for you, that can bring on a scarcity mindset. And it's totally normal for that to happen. We just won't be aware. Okay, I really want to be clear here. What I am not saying when it comes to paying attention to your thoughts is we're just going to start thinking positively about your situation. We're just going to start gaslighting ourselves and saying everything's gonna be fine. There will always be enough money in my bank account, even if you're not sure if there will be we're not going to do this is not what I'm talking about. Okay, we're not gaslighting ourselves here. We're not telling ourselves that everything's gonna be fine with our situation, if we really aren't sure that it is, okay. What we are doing right now is we are just being honest, and recognizing the abundance that you have, the scarcity that you have, the more you open your brain energy up to looking at things with an abundant mindset, th