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Friday Flip: Disappointment of Divorce

This week's problem comes from Riz and feeling the disappointment of divorce.



Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.


Today I'm helping Riz understand why she feels stuck between the disappointment of divorce and wanting to go back to being married.


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Full Episode Transcript:

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.


Hello my friends. This week’s question comes from Riz. My ex husband and girlfriend go married last weekend. It hurts, but at the same time my mind needs better thoughts. I refuse to go back to that dark place. I want to be better, not bitter. This bothers me because I wanted our family back and now he moved on while I’m picking up the pieces. Please help.


Riz, what you need to understand is that you’re already on your way to thinking better thoughts. You’re in a place my mentor calls the ‘river of misery’. It’s where you are wanting to move on and you are making positive changes in your life that you like, and yet you still haven’t fully been able to let go of what’s behind you. You know intellectually that you don’t actually want him back. As you said, you don’t want to go back to that dark place. But you’re also disappointed that your marriage didn’t turn out the way you thought it was going to. All of this is okay. It’s okay that you’re a little bit in the muck of it, right? It’s okay that you’re making some changes and wanting to move forward and it’s okay that you’re disappointed with things not working out the way you expected. It’s possible for you to have these two feelings happening at the same time and still be able to move forward. Allowing the disappointment to be present while you continue to decide who you’re going to be and what you are going to intentionally choose to think and feel moving forward is the best way out of the river of misery. You’ve got this, Riz. Keep going.


Thanks Riz for your question. I’ll be back next week.


That’s your Friday flip! Stay tuned for the weekly podcast episode that comes out every Monday. And remember if you want more one on one help from me as your divorce coach to help you create an even better life than when you were married, then you need to schedule your free consult with me by going to www.karinnelsoncoaching.com Remember that’s Karin with an ‘I’.


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