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Ep #108: Grounding Work for Ultimate Healing After Divorce | Becoming You Again Podcast

Grounding is a way of speaking the language of your body that your nervous system. Grounding is a way to intentionally reactivate your parasympathetic nervous system to send your body and brain messages or signals that you are safe.

Once you learn how to ground yourself in the language of your body, that’s when you will be able to fully tap into your intuition and understand what you and your body need. This is the connection that will allow for ultimate self trust, ultimate self love, ultimate self acceptance and self confidence. Grounding work is the foundation for true self connection.

Listen in as I offer you many options for grounding techniques to try out and see what works for you and your body, bringing into alignment your mindset, body and intuition for full and true self connection.

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Grief and trauma are the two biggest struggles women deal with as they go through their divorce. It's highly likely that you are experiencing both and don't even realize what you're feeling. I'm here to tell you that it's okay for you to grieve your marriage (even if was shitty) and it's normal to be experiencing some kind of trauma (which is essentially a disconnection from yourself (your mind, body and soul). I can help guide you through the grief in all of the forms it show up so you can heal. I can also teach you how to ground yourself in healing so you can ease through the trauma. Schedule your free consult by clicking here.

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Full Episode Transcript:


I'm Karin Nelson and you're listening to Becoming You Again, episode number 108.


Welcome to Becoming You Again the podcast to help with your mental and emotional well being during and after divorce. This is where you learn to overcome the trauma of your divorce by reconnecting with yourself creating lasting emotional resilience and living a truly independent life, so your life will be even better than when you were married. I'm your host, Karin Nelson.


Welcome back to the podcast, my lovely friends, I am so happy that you're here today. As always, let's jump right into today's episode where I am going to be talking about grounding work for ultimate healing after divorce. There's a four step process that needs to occur for healing after divorce. And those four steps are establishing safety, focus on emotional regulation, breaking down belief systems, and then having repetitive corrective experiences. I've talked about these on the podcast before, I'm not going to go in depth into these today. But if this is something that you are wanting to know more about, if you're really wanting to get a little more clarity about those four steps, and how we you able to implement those into your life to actually heal from your trauma,


then you can go listen to episode number 102 Healing from the Trauma of Divorce, I go into more depth and talk about those four steps in that episode. But today, I really just want to focus on grounding work and what that actually looks like. I'm gonna give you some examples in a little bit, so that you know


exactly what grounding work looks like what it means, what I'm saying when I say the word grounding. But to understand what grounding means, we have to kind of understand just a little bit about our nervous system. The nervous system is the body's - basically it's like the communication network. It is responsible for transmitting messages between your brain and other organs and tissues. And there's two main branches of the nervous system. We're getting just a tiny bit scientific on today's podcast episode, but that's okay. Sometimes we need the science to understand right? There's two main branches of the nervous system, the parasympathetic and the sympathetic. If you remember probably back in like biology class in junior high or high school, they talked about this.

The sympathetic nervous system is what gets activated when we are very stressed when we are in danger. Whether it's real danger or perceived. Remember, our brain does not know the difference between real danger and perceived danger, like real threat, and emotional threat, it thinks it's all the same. And so it reacts through our nervous system, which is ultimately as I said, connected to the brain. And this sympathetic nervous system is what triggers our fight, flight or freeze response. And then the parasympathetic nervous system is what comes online, when we are able to return to that state of calm, that state of feeling reregulated. This is what helps our body relax and feel safe. When we experience trauma. Basically, what's going on is our sympathetic nervous system is activated. And then our body goes into a state of high alert, like it's always on alert. And this may manifest with physical symptoms like a fast heart rate, sweating, difficulty taking deep breaths, it might feel like a catch or a lump in your throat. And if this goes on for too long, it can also just continue to show up as like chronic stress, chronic fatigue, auto immune disorders, hyper anxious states, things like that. And so I think it's really important to understand how to ground your body and reregulate your parasympathetic nervous system. So that we are not living in these chronic activated states of high alert, which is often what's happening when we are in trauma, and then we don't know how to get out of it. And so we are constantly just on living on high alert, living above where our nervous system is just regulating at a normal baseline level.

And so what grounding can do is it actually allows you to intentionally reactivate your parasympathetic nervous system and it allows you to send your body and your brain messages or signals that you are safe. Grounding is learning a way of speaking the language of your body. It is learning a way of speaking the language of your nervous system that your nervous system sometimes understands much better than just saying words like I'm safe. I'm okay. I'll get through this. I can do this.


That doesn't necessarily reregulate your body or turn your parasympathetic nervous system back online. But here's the beauty of what learning how to ground yourself will do for your life.


Because once you learn how to ground yourself in the language of your body,