In today's episode I'll be guiding you through a transformative grounding process to build emotional resilience post-divorce. It's a brief yet potent exercise that will help you reconnect with your nervous system and bring you back to the present moment.
As the episode unfolds, I'll be encouraging you to acknowledge your experiences during the exercise. Whether the exercise makes you feel relaxed or restless, the aim is to bring you back to the present moment. It's okay if you resonate with this technique or not, as there's no right or wrong way of doing this. If you find it helpful, feel free to revisit it as often as you need. And if it doesn't, that's perfectly fine too.
Stay tuned for future episodes where I'll be sharing more techniques that will help you find peace and independence in your post-divorce life. Don't forget to check the full show notes for more details on how you can build a better life than when you were married.
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Grief and trauma are the two biggest struggles women deal with as they go through their divorce. It's highly likely that you are experiencing both and don't even realize what you're feeling. I'm here to tell you that it's okay for you to grieve your marriage (even if it was shitty) and it's normal to be experiencing some kind of trauma (which is essentially a disconnection from yourself - your mind, body and soul). I can help guide you through the grief in all of the forms it show up so you can heal. I can also teach you how to ground yourself in healing so you can ease through the trauma. Schedule your free consult by clicking here.
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Full Episode Transcript:
This is Becoming you Again. You are listening to episode number 130, and today's episode is going to be kind of a special one, so stick around. Welcome to Becoming you Again, the podcast to help you with your mental and emotional well-being during and after divorce. This is where you learn to overcome the grief and trauma of your divorce. We're going to do that by reconnecting with yourself, creating lasting emotional resilience and living a truly independent life, so that your life can be even better than when you were married. I'm your host, karin Nelson. Hello, my lovely ladies, welcome back to today's podcast. Today is going to be short, but also pretty incredible, I think, maybe even powerful for some of you. I am going to be walking you through a grounding process that is going to help you attune to your nervous system. This episode is going to be just a little bit different because I'm actually going to walk you through the process as if I was guiding you as one of my clients, or if I was kind of guiding myself through this process. But there is one main ground rule Please do not attempt to do this grounding exercise while you are driving. If you want to try it, make sure you are in a safe space, either at home or somewhere else where you can kind of pay attention to yourself pay attention to your brain, your body and your surroundings to be able to really immerse yourself in this process. It's not a very long process it's maybe three or four minutes total, but please make sure you are just in a safe place to do so. All right, let's get started. Sit in a chair in a comfortable position, or you can also be laying down if that is more comfortable for you. But get comfortable. Roll your shoulders a little, shake or relax your arms. Close your eyes if that feels safe. Just remember you can always open your eyes at any point if you need to reorient yourself to your surroundings. What I want you to do now is notice your butt sitting on your chair. Notice that sensation of your behind as it meets the chair beneath you. Now I want you to pay attention to your back and how it feels against the back of your chair. Notice that sensation. If your feet are on the ground, pay attention to the pressure of each foot as it touches the ground. And if your feet are in shoes, pay attention to the pressure in the shoes and, as your shoes meet the ground, breathe out. Notice your breath moving in and out of your lungs. Don't feel like you need to adjust or change anything. Just notice. Notice your breath, notice where your butt meets your chair, notice your feet meeting the ground and your back as it meets the back of your chair. Notice your breath If that feels good and safe. I want you to continue to notice, to think about your back against the chair, notice your bum on the chair and your feet on the ground, and I want you to open your eyes. You can look to the right, look to your left, you can look up. You can kind of do a semi-circle by looking to your right, looking up, looking to your left, all the while continuing to notice the sensation of your butt on the chair, the pressure of your feet on the ground and your back pressed against the chair. You can look behind you, you can look forward, all the while continuing to notice the sensation of your feet touching the ground, your back against the chair and your butt sitting on the chair. Continue to breathe and notice. Then, when you're ready, you can look forward and just notice your peripheral vision without moving your head, continuing to look forward. Just notice your peripheral vision to the right and to the left, all while you continue to recognize and notice the sensation of your back against the chair, your butt on your seat and your feet on the ground. I'm just going to count down from five, four, three, two, one. Go ahead and breathe out. All right, that was the grounding technique. Now that that is complete, you can either write this down or say it out loud to yourself, or say it in your head. Notice what did you notice while you were doing this exercise. I want you to know that whatever you noticed, it's all normal. There is no right or wrong way of doing this, of experiencing this or feeling this. If it felt relaxing and brought you to the present, that is normal. If it made you feel antsy and was difficult to stay present in the sensation, that is also normal. Or if you experienced something else entirely, that's also normal. I want you to know that if this grounding technique felt helpful or useful to you, please feel free to come back and use this as often as you would like. And if it didn't resonate with you, don't worry. Nothing is wrong with you. It only means that this technique just isn't your vibe. That's totally okay. I'm going to have future episodes where I'm going to walk you through more grounding techniques that you can try, or feel free to find some on your own. There are many, many grounding techniques out there that may work for you. All right, my friends, that is what I have for you today. I hope you enjoyed today's episode. I will be back next week. Thanks for listening. If this podcast agreed with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating. Wherever you listen to podcasts and for more details about how I can help you live an even better life than when you were married, make sure and check out the full show notes by clicking the link in the description.