This week's problem comes from Melissa and her desire to feel loved by her ex again.
Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.
Today I'm helping Melissa who is struggling with wanting her ex to love her again and how she can feel create that feeling for herself.
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Full Episode Transcript:
Today’s struggle comes from Melissa. She says, “I am trying so hard to remain positive. I’m trying so hard to love myself. I’m trying so hard not to complain about my circumstances…but the truth is I feel like I am dying inside. All I want is for him to love me again.”
Melissa, I want to share something with you and with all of my listeners that I know will help. Since I learned this truth my life has completely changed. The reason it feels so good and amazing to be loved by someone else is because when they are telling us how great we are, how beautiful we are, how amazing we are, how we are the best person, and everything else they say that feels so good – it’s not because we feel their love jump out of their body and into our body. It’s because when we hear those words and we give ourselves permission to believe them about ourselves. And it feels incredibly good to believe those things about ourselves. To believe that we are amazing. To believe that we are beautiful. To believe that we are great. To believe that we are the best person. When we give ourselves permission to believe those words we feel love inside our body. We feel our love for ourselves and it feels amazing. And when we haven’t developed the skill of believing that we are worthy, or amazing or lovely or beautiful on our own – and then the outside words or validation are gone or are not given any longer, we stop giving ourselves permission to believe that those things are true. But I want you to know that they were always true about you, those words. I want you to knowo that they are still true about you. They will always be true about you. You can start to give yourself permission to believe kind and loving things about yourself today. You don’t need to hear those words, the outside validation from your ex, from your old boyfriend, from your mom, you’re your sister or your friend. You don’t need to hear those words from them to start believing them about yourself today. You can start to think kind loving thoughts to think about yourself that make you feel that love inside of yourself today. It’s within your power.
Melissa, thank you for that one. I know every one of my listeners will benefit from hearing that. I’ll be back on Monday with another full episode of Becoming You Again.
That’s your Friday flip! Stay tuned for the weekly podcast episode that comes out every Monday. And remember if you want more one on one help from me as your divorce coach to help you create an even better life than when you were married, then you need to schedule your free consult with me by going to www.karinnelsoncoaching.com Remember that’s Karin with an ‘I’.