This week I'm answering a Question from Tania.
Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.
Deciding that you're ready to make changes in your life and start listening to your own inner knowing is a cool place to find yourself. But when we don't get the support and excitement from those around us we can often hold ourselves back from moving toward what we really want in life. I'm helping Tania as she struggles with this in today's Friday Flip.
Part of being a human is figuring out what makes you feel fulfilled. When we're not quite sure what that is or what we want out of life, we feel stuck. Many women who go through a divorce want to create change and live a better, more fulfilled life; but they have no idea where to start. I can help you figure out what you want and make a plan to get you there. Click here to schedule your complimentary consult with me to find out more.
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Full Episode Transcript:
Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.
This week’s question comes from Tania. She says, “I was unfulfilled for a long time. Now I’m making decisions for myself wanting to be happy and breaking out of this toxic cycle but no one is happy for me. It’s almost like I want to give up on trying because no one is supporting me in the way I thought they would. What can I do?”
Hi Tania. Thank you for this question. Here’s what I want you to know. It’s not anyone else’s job to be happy for you about your decision to make changes. That is your job. It is your responsibility to create your happiness, to make decisions, and to find fulfillment in your own life. And I love that you’re wanting that. I think it is so amazing that you have made that decision and are wanting to move forward with that. But here is what is happening. Instead of celebrating that decision and figuring out what it is that you can start with to think and feel and do to create more happiness, you are focused on needing others approval and support for you to be able to go do it.
You don’t need that. You might want it. It feels good if someone else is like amazing, go do this, but guess what? You do not need it and I promise you that the longer you wait around waiting for other people to approve of your decisions about your life and making your life great and making changes the less time you have actually going out and creating that amazing life for yourself.
You are incredible and you came to this decision on your own. You have identified where you want to make changes. You are choosing to go down a path where you will feel independent and fulfilled and it is going to feel really good as you are going through this journey. You are 100% allowed to feel that way about yourself and to celebrate yourself for that and you do not need other people to join in on that journey or to support you or to even tell you good job, keep going. You’ve got this mama. You do you and if people want to come along for the ride, great, amazing. Let them join in. But do not put your life on hold waiting for them to approve of it before you even get started.
Alright Tania, I hope that helps. Thank you so much for your question. I will be back next week.
That’s your Friday flip! Stay tuned for the weekly podcast episode that comes out every Monday. And remember if you want more one on one help from me as your divorce coach to help you create an even better life than when you were married, then you need to schedule your free consult with me by going to www.karinnelsoncoaching.com Remember that’s Karin with an ‘I’.