Ep #107: Healing Through Play | Becoming You Again Podcast
Trauma is a disconnection from ourselves. When we experience trauma we are separating us from ourselves and when we heal that is when we come back to ourselves. We learn to reconnect our mind, our intuition and her nervous system all as one again. This is when we feel safe and give ourselves permission to be truly us.
In this episode we explore one way to heal from trauma; through play. Learning to use play as a way of creating safety for ourselves. It's through that self reconnection that healing will occur.
You will learn how Karin used play in the early stages of her divorce to help heal from her trauma and how she uses play today on a daily basis to ground herself in daily reconnection. You will also learn a new way of thinking about 'play' that takes no extra effort or talent and that you can start to do today to begin healing.
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Full Episode Transcript:
I’m Karin Nelson and you’re listening to Becoming You Again episode number 107.
Welcome to becoming You Again. The podcast to help you with your mental and emotional wellbeing during and after divorce. This is where you learn to overcome the trauma of your divorce by reconnecting with yourself, creating lasting emotional resilience and living a truly independent life so your life will be even better than when you were married. I’m your host Karin Nelson.
I wanted to start off this podcast with little bit of some fun news about the podcast. We have hit 15,000 downloads and that is amazing. I am so grateful for you all. I know I say this a lot but thank you so much for continuing to listen and share in rate and review. I appreciate each and everyone of you for doing that. So that is some exciting news.
But as always I am excited to be talking about this podcast topic because I think it is going to be very useful and I want you know that in the next coming months I am going to be having some fun, informative, hopefully very enriching podcast episodes where I will be inviting some guests on to talk about some topics that I know about but I cannot necessarily be the expert on. I am going to be having a parenting coach expert come on. I am going to be having a tapping coach expert come on. And a couple of other experts that I have got in the works. I have got some funding is coming up in the coming months for the podcast that I think are really going to enrich your lives and enrich my life as well as I am learning from all of these people and things and I am just so excited to be sharing them with you all and again today I am very excited to talking about this topic. It is not one that I have covered yet and so I think that is very fun to be offering use some new ideas about things on ways that you can heal from your trauma of your divorce.
So today we are talking about healing through play and I think this is kind of maybe going to be a fun topic for some of you and maybe not but either way I will hopefully give you some new ideas and new ways of thinking about play and thinking about trying new things in your life that you may be had not allowed yourself to be for or opened up to in the past. So we all know as women, or maybe you do not know but I have talked about on podcast before so if you listen to this podcast you know that we as women are naturally human givers. It is in our nature, like our bodies are literally created to give to others. Right. To create another being or other beings inside of us and give to them. When we are pregnant we give up everything that we have to create that inside of us and even if you never give birth you still are naturally predisposed as a human ever to give, nourish and enrich others lives. And on top of that what is naturally in our DNA as women, we are also socialized to believe that we are the human givers. That we should always be giving to others first before we even think about getting to ourselves and even then when we think about getting to ourselves we feel immense guilt that we should not be thinking about ourselves has all of our gifts and what we had to give should be going out word. Rights.
It is innate and we are socialized so it makes perfect sense that so many of us feel guilty when we want to do something for ourselves. When we choose to do something for ourselves, that feels very uncomfortable. That feels even wrong in so many respects and it makes sense because of this human giver syndrome.
So this can create a lot of disconnect between ourselves, our soul, our body, our brain when we are trying to come back to ourselves and heal because we feel because we have that socialization, because we have that imprint in our DNA that says, no, no, no you should not be getting to yourself. You should not be thinking about yourself in this way. You should only be giving to those outside of you, to everyone around you. And this disconnection is part of the trauma that we are feeling.
Trauma is a disconnection from ourselves. When we experience trauma we are separating us from ourselves and when we heal that is when we come back to ourselves. That is when we reconnect our mind, our intuition and her nervous system all as one again. When we have all of that back online in moments that is when we feel safe. That is when we give ourselves permission to be truly us, to open up and to play and to try new things and to explore and to give to ourselves the love and care that we need in moments that we are constantly giving to everyone around us. That is the beauty of healing, is that we see ourselves as a whole, connected, online being and we allow those parts to come together in alignment.
And so I wanted to kind of focus on using play as a way of creating safety for ourselves through that reconnection and really opening up to allowing ourselves to heal in a way that maybe we have not in a very long time.
Now this reconnection with ourselves. This healing from trauma, there are many, many ways that we can do this. Right I have talked about so many of them on podcast before. You can use breath work, journaling, movement, allowing of emotions, doing a body scan and seeing where you are tight and opening up to that, tapping which is something we are going to be talking about on the podcast in a later episode. So many other things that I have not even mentioned but play is also one of the ways to create safety for ourselves, to reconnect with ourselves and bring ourselves back online to create a space for healing from trauma.
This topic to me is very personal because when I was married, for many, many years of my marriage I did not know how to play. It was like I forgot how to play how to have fun, how to allow myself to let go and to be in moments. And I did not know at the time why. In fact it was not even like a thing that occurred to me that I should be allowing myself to have fun. That I should be giving myself permission to let