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Ep #59 Friday Flip: Struggling With Being Alone

This week I'm answering a Question from Anonymous.



Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.


For many of us, being alone when the kids are with our ex is our least favorite thing. It's been so long since we've been alone that we don't know how to do it. We get bored. We don't enjoy our own company. We don't even know what being single means after years of being in a marriage.


Listen in as I help anonymous figure out how to overcome being alone and figure out exactly what being single means to her.


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Full Episode Transcript:

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.


This week’s problem comes from anonymous. She says, “I’ve been struggling with being okay when it’s just me, like when the kids are at their dad’s for the weekend. I get bored, I don’t know how to get to the point where I can enjoy being single and enjoy my own company. How can I get to that point?


Hi anonymous. Thanks for your question. Right now is a perfect time for you to explore yourself and get to know yourself again. I would take some time exploring what being single means to you. For many of us, it’s been a really long since we’ve been single that all we have as a reference guide is what we see in movies and on TV but in reality you get to define what being single means for you. So take some time to really explore this question, what does being single mean to me? Think about it this way, if I could wave a magic wand and you could have the most amazing single life what would that look like? What would you be thinking about yourself? How would you be feeling? What would you be doing? You don’t have to know all of the answers right off the top of your head but that is what the exploring is. Be open to trying new things and seeing what lands for you. I really want you to show up with self compassion rather than constant self criticism here. Give yourself permission to have fun. Because the more you open yourself up to connecting with yourself and deciding what being single looks like for you, the more you’ll enjoy your own company and the time away from your kids isn’t going to feel like such a heavy burden that you have to try and white knuckle it through every time. Get working on that. Really start exploring what you enjoy and answer that question for yourself, what does being single look like for me. And remember, there’s no wrong answer.


Alright, thanks so much for your question anonymous. I’ll be back next week.


That’s your Friday flip! Stay tuned for the weekly podcast episode that comes out every Monday. And remember if you want more one on one help from me as your divorce coach to help you create an even better life than when you were married, then you need to schedule your free consult with me by going to www.karinnelsoncoaching.com Remember that’s Karin with an ‘I’.


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