This week's question comes from Sadie.
Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.
In today's episode I'm giving a quick flip on how to stop feeling stuck.
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Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.
This week’s conundrum comes from Sadie. “I struggle with feeling stuck. No motivation. Always exhausted, especially on days I gotta go to work. I think I need to just change direction or do something new to rediscover my spark but I just don’t know. Please help.”
Sadie, this feeling ‘stuck’ is coming from what you’re thinking about your life, your job, etc. It might seem really helpful or useful to change the direction by getting a new job or moving to a new place, but that will never address the underlying problem which is being created in your brain by your thoughts.
This is what we do as humans – we think that it’s things outside of us that are creating the way we feel. If I just had a new job, then I’d feel fulfilled and excited and motivated. If I just had a different car, then I’d feel accomplished and successful and people would look at me different. If I just lost 20 pounds, then I’d feel confident and sexy. But it’s never the thing outside of us that will make us feel anything long term.
Those things might help us feel different as a short term fix, but it really is like putting a bandaid on for a broken bone. Why? Because no matter we go or whatever we do to try and ‘change’ how we feel, our brain comes along with us. We have to address what’s going on in our heads to be able to feel unstuck.
So the best place to start is by asking yourself, what am I thinking about on days when I have to go to work? Write down all your thoughts and just start to notice them. Noticing is always the best first step. So start there and see what comes up. Thanks for your question, Sadie.
That’s your Friday flip! Stay tuned for the weekly podcast episode that comes out every Monday. And remember if you want more one on one help from me as your divorce coach to help you create an even better life than when you were married, then you need to schedule your free consult with me by going to www.karinnelsoncoaching.com Remember that’s Karin with an ‘I’.