This week's problem comes from Lexie with starting over after divorce.
Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.
Today I answer Lexie's question as she is asking about starting over and what to do when you don't have a strong support system when you go through a divorce.
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Full Episode Transcript:
Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.
Today’s divorce question comes from Lexie. How do you start over with kids and absolutely no support system? I’m so scared to start the process or even say out loud that I want to.
Hi Lexie, thanks for your question. Here’s what I think will be most helpful for you right now. The way we think about things can make things seem much harder or easier than they are. We often will feel inadequate or incapable just by how we’re thinking about it or the story we’re telling ourselves about it. When you tell yourself that you are ‘starting over’ with no support system that sound really hard and scary. What if you could think about it in a different way that sounded more doable to you? You get to figure out what sounds more doable to you, but I would try on the idea that you’re making some changes. You’re capable of making changes for you and your kids. You’re adaptable and can totally do that.
As far as not having a support system I would really question that. What do you mean when you say ‘support system’? Does that mean you don’t have any family close by or friends? Could a support system look different than what you’re picturing in your head? I am in many groups on FB and so many women in these groups offer so much support and love to one another in times of need. Like right now we are going through a formula shortage and there are so many women offering help and support to women who find themselves in this struggle. What if instead of telling yourself that you have no support system around you, that you looked for ways that you do have people around you who will help when you need it.
When you can start to think about it in a different way you’ll see that you are capable of handling this challenge in your life. I hope that helps Lexie.
That’s your Friday flip! Stay tuned for the weekly podcast episode that comes out every Monday. And remember if you want more one on one help from me as your divorce coach to help you create an even better life than when you were married, then you need to schedule your free consult with me by going to www.karinnelsoncoaching.com Remember that’s Karin with an ‘I’.