This week's Question comes from Cindy.
Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.
Cindy is struggling with knowing what to do when her kids don't listen or follow the rules. She feels like she's the problem and ends up feeling like a failure as a mom.
Listen in as I teach Cindy the key to being able to show up as the parent you want to be, while dropping the part where you feel like you're failing as a parent.
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Full Episode Transcript:
Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.
This week’s question comes from Cindy. She asks, “How do you get past feeling like a failure as a mom? My kids never listen and constantly break rules even when they’ve been told what to do 10 minutes prior. I feel like I’m always doing something wrong and I’m the problem. I don’t know what to do anymore.”
Thanks for your question Cindy. What has helped me most as a parent is learning to detach my worth and value from what my kids do or don’t do. In other words, I stopped seeing myself as a successful mom or a failed mom because of on my kids actions and behavior.
So many of us think that if our kids are being good and getting good grades and behaving decently then we’ve done something right as their parent. But then that also means that if the kids are acting up, and getting bad grades, and breaking rules then we must be doing something wrong as a parent.
But here’s the truth, our kids actions are because of what is going on in their heads and their bodies, meaning they are having thoughts and feelings that are driving their actions. And the same is true for you and every other human on the planet. The point is, if they break the rules or if they do everything they are told, it isn’t because you are a good or bad parent. It’s because of what they are thinking and feeling which is fueling how they act. When you can really understand this and detach your worth from their outcome, that’s when you’ll feel more empowered to be the parent you want to be and show up to trust yourself to know that you do know what to do as their parent.
I hope that helps, Cindy. Thanks again for your question. I’ll be back next week.
That’s your Friday flip! Stay tuned for the weekly podcast episode that comes out every Monday. And remember if you want more one on one help from me as your divorce coach to help you create an even better life than when you were married, then you need to schedule your free consult with me by going to www.karinnelsoncoaching.com Remember that’s Karin with an ‘I’.
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